Advice

#IsOverParty: When Your Faves Become Too Problematic

In journalism, there’s the saying, “you aren’t a real journalist until you’ve been sued.” Perhaps the Hollywood version is, “you aren’t a real celebrity until you’ve been canceled.”

When scrolling through Twitter, it’s not uncommon to see #InsertCelebrityIsOverParty trending, but the who and the why is usually a little surprising.

Both Lana Del Rey and Doja Cat, we’re served their cancellations this week, where the former continued to solidify her status, and the latter has yet to address it.

However, their fans and haters have heatedly debated whether the celeb is worthy of being dubbed a villain or victim. The outcome — people are either considered fake fans for not riding for their team or are morally corrupt for continuing to support them.

As a passive consumer, for the most part, I have very little investment in individual celebrities, so if the cancellation seems valid, my response is to cease consuming their content. As simple as that sounds, it’s not that easy when it comes to the celebrities I stan.

Recently, I was faced with the #ShallonLesterIsOverParty, and it shook me. Was I supposed to defend her character when a strong argument was built against her, or was it time for me to acknowledge I had made a poor choice in supporting her?

Having subscribed to her since the Jordyn Woods/Tristan Thompson/Kardashian drama, I did not expect her to be canceled on such a large scale. Although she should have known better than to come for the BTS Army, her cancellation was already in the works.

I had long since recognized how problematic she is, and as she would say, the writing had been on the wall, I had just chosen to ignore it.

For me, Shallon had always felt like a messy auntie, full of wisdom and problematic anecdotes. Like with most toxic family dynamics, the expectation is to acknowledge their shortcomings and move on.

While that works with your loved ones, celebrities are neither family nor friends, despite how we feel. Instead, fans are their source of income, and as sad as that may seem, stars, rarely, if any, know their fans outside of demographics and sales totals.

It is their job to sell you themselves and their product, and if done right, there’s a sense of familiarity and intimacy that people expect within their close relationships. Considering this, it’s unsurprising the compulsion fans feel to stand up for their idols.

As humans, we can rationalize that everyone is flawed, so it really hurts to see someone you care about get bashed by the world, but even so, some celebrities should be canceled, as they should not have the platform and power they possess.

That said, cancel culture is long overdue for its own cancellation because it calls into question, can people really change and grow? We are different people every day, who have all been worthy of a smaller-scale #IsOverParty of our own.

So while that’s not to say that you shouldn’t investigate when your fave and other celebrities are canceled — because you should know who you bankroll — if you find your favorite star is the latest to be called out, the best way to handle it that doesn’t involve fighting with strangers online, which is not a good look for you,  is to not actively participate in the discussion.

Save yourself the drama by keeping your twitter fingers at bay, and leaving the clean up for the celebrity’s PR team.

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